We live in a world that thrives on exchange. You do this for me, and I’ll do that for you. This transactional mindset is efficient for business, but when we apply it to our most sacred relationships, we poison the well of true love.
At POP’s, we believe in living by principles, and one of the highest principles is understanding the true nature of giving and receiving love.
The Principle of Non-Transactional Giving
Love, at its core, is not supposed to be a ledger. It is not an agreement where you give precisely to get an equal return. This kind of “love” is just a conditional contract, designed to protect the self rather than elevate the other.
We don’t give to get; we just give because the source of love within us is endless.
When you operate from a place of genuine, principled love, you realize that your capacity to care is limitless. Giving should flow out of abundance, not out of an expectation of repayment. The moment we attach a string to our affection, we demote it from unconditional love to a mere business deal.
Embracing the Pain of Real Connection
Let’s be honest: genuine love isn’t always comfortable. It demands vulnerability, and vulnerability inevitably invites pain.
If you are willing to deal with the pain that comes with opening your heart, the occasional sting of misunderstanding, the hurt of rejection, or the struggle to truly connect, you unlock the door to something greater. The principle here is fortitude:
No pain is forever. But some love is.
The difficult moments are temporary. The foundation of a love built on principle, however, is eternal.
Love Isn’t Always Nice, But It’s Always Real
Sometimes, in the moment, the people we love may not feel like we are loving them. Why? Because love isn’t always “nice.”
If we only offered constant praise and comfort, we would be failing in our duty to the people we cherish. True love often requires us to be the anchor, the voice of reason, or the gentle, firm push toward growth.
This is where principle guides our honesty:
• It is not brutally honest (which often serves the speaker’s ego).
• It is honest with compassion (which serves the other person’s growth).
The Power of Forgiveness and Understanding
Finally, principled love is rooted in understanding and forgiveness.
We are all human, and we all try our best. This kind of love recognizes when someone gave it their best shot, even if the delivery was flawed, the action didn’t work out, or the gesture wasn’t received or perceived well.
When you see the good intention behind the imperfect action, you can let go of the judgment and hold on to the relationship. This is the ultimate act of non-transactional love, seeing the heart, not just the outcome.
Your Call to Principle:
Examine your relationships today. Are you giving to get? Or are you giving because your love is an endless well? Commit to the latter, and you will find that the love you offer, the pain you endure, and the connections you build will be truly limitless.
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